Public speaking is a journey full of unexpected twists, awkward moments, and, occasionally, complete flops. But if there’s one lesson I’ve learned, it’s that humor can turn even the toughest moments into opportunities to connect with your audience.
In Speak Goodr, a practical and relatable book on public speaking, I share many of my own missteps—those “confessions of a public speaker” moments where things didn’t go as planned. What saved me in many of those situations wasn’t a perfect delivery or a flawless presentation. It was humor. When used authentically, humor builds relatability, helps recover from awkwardness, and forges a genuine connection with the audience.
Let’s explore how finding humor in the hardships of public speaking can transform your stage presence and make your message unforgettable.
The Power of Refining Your Humor
In one of my early gigs, I tried out a joke that completely bombed. It was one of those moments when the silence in the room seemed louder than the words I had just spoken. But instead of abandoning humor altogether, I decided to refine my approach.
As I recount in Speak Goodr, I worked hard to tweak and test my material, learning to read the room and adjust my timing. The same joke that failed miserably in one setting became a huge hit after a few adjustments and careful delivery.
Here’s the secret: humor is a craft. Even seasoned comedians spend years honing their material. As a speaker, you don’t need to be a comedian, but persistence in refining your jokes and anecdotes is key. Humor isn’t just about making people laugh—it’s about creating a shared experience that breaks down barriers and draws your audience closer.
Humor and Relatability
Audiences love speakers who are relatable, and humor is one of the most effective ways to build that connection. Sharing a lighthearted moment—especially one that pokes fun at yourself—reminds your audience that you’re human, just like them.
In one of my most memorable “confessions of a public speaker,” I share a story about getting lost on the way to a venue. When I finally arrived, I was flustered, late, and had forgotten half my notes. Instead of hiding my embarrassment, I turned it into a self-deprecating anecdote to open the talk. The audience roared with laughter, and the shared moment created an instant bond.
Humor like this works because it’s authentic. It shows vulnerability and invites your audience to join you in the experience.
Humor as a Recovery Tool
Public speaking rarely goes perfectly. A joke that falls flat, a technical mishap, or an unexpected interruption can throw even the most seasoned speaker off their game. But humor is a powerful tool for recovery.
For example, during one event, my microphone cut out halfway through a punchline. Instead of panicking, I smiled and said, “Well, I guess that’s the mic’s way of saying my joke wasn’t worth finishing!” The audience laughed, and we moved on without missing a beat.
In Speak Goodr, I emphasize that humor isn’t just about delivering punchlines—it’s about diffusing tension and keeping your audience engaged, even when things go wrong.
Authenticity Over Perfection
As speakers, we often feel pressure to deliver polished, flawless performances. But audiences value authenticity far more than perfection. Humor that feels genuine—even if it’s slightly awkward—often resonates more deeply than a perfectly rehearsed line.
Some of the funniest and most impactful moments I’ve had on stage came from unscripted interactions: a witty response to an audience question, a playful observation about the venue, or even a quick joke about my own mistakes.
When humor arises naturally, it creates a sense of spontaneity that audiences love. As I share in Speak Goodr, the best humor often comes from being present in the moment and responding authentically to what’s happening around you.
Tips for Using Humor Effectively
If you’re looking to incorporate humor into your talks, here are a few tips I’ve learned through years of trial and error:
- Know Your Audience: Tailor your humor to the group you’re speaking to. A joke that works for a corporate audience might not land at a nonprofit event.
- Start Light: Open with a mild, universal joke or anecdote to test the audience’s vibe.
- Practice, but Stay Flexible: Rehearse your humor, but leave room for spontaneity. Authenticity often trumps precision.
- Be Self-Aware: Light self-deprecation can be endearing, but avoid making yourself the constant punchline.
- Use Humor to Enhance, Not Distract: Your jokes should support your message, not overshadow it.
Why Speak Goodr is a Must-Read
If you’re seeking a book on public speaking that dives into real-life experiences and offers actionable advice, Speak Goodr is an invaluable resource. Unlike other public speaking books that focus solely on structure or delivery, this book brings humor and humanity to the forefront.
Through stories, “confessions of a public speaker,” and practical tips, Speak Goodr equips readers to navigate the unexpected with confidence and connect with audiences in meaningful ways. It’s a reminder that humor isn’t just a tool for entertainment—it’s a bridge to understanding and relatability.
Final Thoughts
Public speaking comes with its fair share of hardships, but humor has the power to turn those challenges into memorable moments. By refining your jokes, embracing authenticity, and learning to laugh at yourself, you can build deeper connections with your audience and recover from even the most awkward situations.
If you’re ready to master the art of humor in public speaking, pick up a copy of Speak Goodr. This engaging book on public speaking is packed with stories, strategies, and lessons learned from the stage, making it an essential guide for speakers at any level.
Remember, the best humor doesn’t come from perfection—it comes from being real. So, embrace the hardships, find the humor, and connect with your audience in ways they’ll never forget.